To call it a blip in the road, is not to recognise the challenges, priorities and capabilities that it will change. It will, maybe should, redefine your life.
If you get cancer at 33, what is the life you were made for? I don’t know the answer to that, I will find out, but what I know for sure, is that I was unhappy and resentful and angry when dealing with infertility, but that was a blip in the road.
But the emotion and the physical anticipation often stop you from doing other things, exploring other options, learning new skills or being of service, and enjoying your interests. That was not necessarily something I could help, especially when I put myself in a medical logistical process like IVF, but it was something I often projected on myself when actually I didn’t have a real disease or a problem.
He is able to go on Facebook and experience no torrent of emotions or meaninglessness. He goes to work, and meets friends for discussions that would be trivial and temporal to me now, he does not need to nurture his confidence. He doesn’t fear ovarian cancer, nor does his entire skin burn with sensitivity and pain.
That is a big difference.
